Monday, May 15, 2017

Depression After Pregnancy

It is not uncommon for women to develop depression immediately after their pregnancy has ended. The beginning of motherhood may be a new challenge to many, who may feel that they are incapable of handing the new challenges ahead of them. In addition, their pregnancy might have left them with indelible memories of disappointment and frustration that make them depressed.

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Monday, May 8, 2017

Internal Cleansing to Prepare Pregnancy

If you decide to get pregnant, you must make sure you are internally clean—that is the only way to prevent disease or any complication during your pregnancy.

Colon cleansing

Colon cleansing is a must for a healthy digestive system.

Add one teaspoon of Epsom salts (magnesium sulfate) to one glass of water. Drink this first thing in the morning for up to three weeks. Do this treatment twice a year.

Alternatively, take one to three teaspoons of Castor oil in a glass of warm water. Drink it first thing in the morning or on an empty stomach before going to bed. Do this treatment on a regular basis, or as needed.

Kidney cleansing

Check to see if you may have kidney stones by pulling the skin under your eyes sideways toward your cheekbones to see if there is any visible pimple or protrusion, or discoloration of the skin.

Liver cleansing

A healthy liver needs regular detoxification.

Drink organic unsweetened apple juice daily for 2 to 3 consecutive days to initiate detoxification.

Eat a raw diet of only fruits and vegetables, with no dairy products, for 2 to 3 days.

Drink a mixture of organic pure olive oil (4 ounces) and equal amount of fresh squeezed lemon juice. Shake well and drink immediately before going to bed.

Drink ginger tea daily for liver and bowel cleansing: juice one lemon, a two-inch fresh ginger root, four cloves, and one stick of cinnamon; add juice to two cups of water in a saucepan; bring to boil, and simmer for 15 minute.

Drinking enough water

Drink enough water to maintain adequate bile production and bile consistency., that is, more than 8 glasses of pure water. Alcohol dehydrates. Avoid all sugary or energy-boosting drinks.

Eating natural unrefined sea salt

Add a pinch of sea salt to your drinking water to alkalize it, as well as to provide important minerals and trace elements.

Adopt a healthy lifestyle with adequate sleep and without undue stress. Exercise regularly.

Stephen Lau 
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Saturday, May 6, 2017

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Monday, May 1, 2017

Weight Management Before Pregnancy


Weight management is critical to a healthy pregnancy. You should be within 15 pounds of your ideal weight before pregnancy, and that also applies to your partner (why: an overweight partner may have decreased testosterone leading to depressed libido).

Do birth control until you are read y for pregnancy. Hormonal contraception may take months for fertility to return to normal. Natural family planning is the way to go.

Do boost nutrients for a healthy pregnancy. Important nutrients include the following:

Calcium (why: avoiding back and leg pain, insomnia, and irritability)—eat figs and raw leeks.

Folic acid (why: avoiding structural defects)—eat chives. Chives are a nutrient-dense food low in calories but high in nutrients. Always use a sharp knife to cut chives (why: avoid bruising the herb), and add chives to any dish near the end of cooking (why: avoid losing its flavor).

Iron (why: healthy growth of baby)—eat chives.

Magnesium (why: cellular development; over-coming early pregnancy discomfort, such as constipation)—eat chives.

Manganese (why: baby’s normal skeletal development)—eat raw leeks.
Vitamin B6 (why: avoiding nausea and morning sickness; metabolizing proteins, carbohydrates, and fats)—eat raw leeks.

Vitamin C (why: proper absorption of iron)—eat fresh fruits and vegetables.

Vitamin K (why: healthy bone growth and proper blood-clot formation)—eat raw leeks.

All the above nutrients and vitamins are especially important not only for pre-pregnancy but also for the first trimester of pregnancy.

Do get sufficient sleep (why: research has shown that the more sleep you get,  the less time of labor may ensue; getting less than 5 hours of sleep may even increase the chance of having a C-section for delivery. Do set a schedule for your sleeping hours to help your body get on a set schedule of sleep. Do go to bed earlier.

Do take herbs to increase fertility (why: drink clover flower tea and nettle tea to increase female fertility).

Do avoid unpasteurized milk and blue-veined cheeses.

Do cook all your food thoroughly.

Do help your partner to enhance his fertility. According to a Danish study, overweight men have fewer sperms. According to State University of New York, placing laptop computers on laps may decrease sperms (why: due to accumulation of heat). Certain drugs on men’s hair loss, high blood pressure, and ulcers may also affect the quality of sperms. Do increase his intake of folic acid, vitamin C, and zinc to enhance the quality of sperms.althy

Have a healthy pregnancy!

Sally Smart


Monday, March 27, 2017

Learning and Teaching in the First Year

It is important to maintain and sustain the learning and teaching process of your baby. According to novelist John Steinbeck, a genius is “a child chasing a butterfly up a mountain”; let your baby’s curiosity be the butterfly and let his learning environment be the mountain. Most real learning in the first year occurs within the context of ordinary everyday life. It doesn’t require formal training; it is a natural consequence of everyday experience. Be that as it may, to maximize your baby’s learning potentials, you need to create an enriched learning and teaching environment. The typical American child, however, does not live in an enriched environment: he spends hours watching television or playing electronic toys; he is often engaged in self-directed play, instead of interactive and imaginative play with his parents.
An enriched learning and teaching environment for babies and children to reach their maximum intellectual potentials includes the following:
Your baby needs to spend time in a safe, secure, and quiet environment.
Your baby needs a dimly lit environment to see better; use only 40-watt or less light-bulbs in the nursery.
Your baby needs freedom of movement; use the crib or playpen sparingly.
Your baby needs age-related toys and art materials.
Your baby needs new things to look at all the time.
Your baby needs regular contacts with adults, especially eye contacts.
Your baby needs smiles, as well as friendly and affirmative words.
Is Your Baby Ready to Play and Learn?
There are some obvious physical changes and signs if your baby is good and ready to play and learn.
Your baby needs good rest before he can play and learn. Adequate rest avoids mood swings and improves the brain function in your baby.
Your baby’s breathing is always slow and even, with a relaxed abdomen, if he wants to play and learn.
Your baby sucking rate also slows down considerably.
Your baby’s attention focuses on the source of stimulation, his fingers and toes fanning with excitement towards it, as well as his pupils dilating and his eyes widening.
On the other hand, your baby may show signs of overstimulation when he cries and squirms, flailing his arms and legs, and even thrusting out his tongue.
Good parenting means providing an enriched learning environment for babies and children to learn while playing. A study conducted at the University of Chicago found out that some accomplished adults, such as distinguished athletes, musicians, mathematicians, and scientists all had parents who shared certain outlooks about enriched environment in which they were raised and reared.
They all unintentionally produced a prodigy
They all encouraged their children to play and to explore the world.
They all stimulated and motivated their children through playing and learning.
They were all dedicated to their own interests, and encouraged their children to do likewise, but without pushing them in that direction.
They all supported their children’s self-chosen interests, and made their passion a top priority.
They all encouraged their children to have independent thinking, and to think for themselves through curiosity and asking questions.
The key to successful parenting is to provide an enriched environment for learning while playing, as well as for recognizing talents and potentials that may or may not be the skills and abilities you value most. Praising your baby’s efforts and his accomplishments strengthens your baby’s neurological connections between activity and emotional rewards, and thus instrumental in developing more interest in trying new things and experiences.
Bottom line: the more your baby enjoys spending time with you as he explores the world, the more motivated he will become, and the more he will learn. Relax, loosen up, and always look at the environment and the world through your baby’s eyes, rather than those of your own. It is just that simple.

Read my book: Make Your Smart Baby Super Smart and be a smart parent.

Stephen Lau
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Monday, March 20, 2017

Writing Before Reading

Teaching your child to read requires patience, perseverance, and much effort. But it is very rewarding if your child can read at a much earlier stage than other kids. I began teaching my daughter to read when she was only a few months old, and she could read at the age of three (an average child in the United States begins to read at the age of five or six).

Teaching a child to read comes in many stages, and the last stage prior to reading is the writing stage.

Writing, involving the use of voluntary muscles, is a physical skill that improves with more practice and encouragement from parents. At the end of the second year or the beginning of the third year, wrist and finger movement develops, and by the middle or the end of the third year, your child may have mastered the skill of holding a pencil between finger and thumb. Some children can draw crude pictures of human figures; others may begin to copy their own names.

To help your child achieve a satisfactory running hand is a more realistic goal than to train him or her to become  calligrapher. Good handwriting, however, should be duly encouraged: after all, attractive handwriting is often a joy to behold as well as a pleasure to produce. Moreover, an efficient mastery of handwriting would enable subsequent fluent written communication. It is important that there should be a sensible and consistent policy for the teaching of handwriting.

Teach and encourage your child to do the following to improve his or her motor skills:

Cutting along a line with a pair of scissors.
Lacing shoes.
Stacking a series of blocks.
Buttoning clothes.
Brushing teeth.

Ensure your child’s correct writing posture:

Sit with both feet firmly on the floor.
Pull up the trunk and lean slightly forward.
Rest the right forearm on the table.
Use left hand to steady the paper with the index finger and thumb on the left edge of the paper.
Place the paper to the right of the writer and then lightly tilt it to the left.

Relax your child’s writing hold:

Hold the pencil between the thumb and index finger resting it on the second finger.
Do not bend in the first joint of the index finger to avoid pressing the pencil.
Encourage your child to relax rather than demand him or her not to grip firmly.

Teach your child to write the alphabets.

Make sure your child knows the letter, its shape, and sound before teaching him or her to write.
Ask your child to say the name and the sound of the letters while making the correct sequence of strokes.
Teach your child what to say when he or she is writing the letter, for example, Pee says puh for puppy: down the stem, up and round for the puppy.
Emphasize the importance of the sequence of strokes.
Start and finish each line with written examples for over-writing.
Teach your child the lower case first before proceeding to the upper case.
Make your child talk through while writing and spelling, for example, saying the word and sounds of syllables and letter strings.

Teach your child to copy his or her  own name.

Use a felt pen to write his or her name.
Indicate the sequence and the direction of the strokes.
Ask your child to write over the letters of his or her name, or trace them on a piece of tracing paper.
When your child has finished a painting or drawing, ask your child to print his or her name from a copy of your child’s names.
Ask your child to put titles on the pictures he or she has drawn. Let your child tell you about the pictures, or suggest short and appropriate titles for them. Write titles with a felt pen for over-writing, tracing, and copying.

Stephen Lau
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