In
Houston, Texas, a man using his gun robbed diners in a taqueria restaurant. The
robber was on the verge of leaving that restaurant when he was shot 9 times by
a vigilante diner, who then helped diners recover their money robbed at that
Houston taqueria restaurant before disappearing.
The police later discovered that the
suspect’s weapon was only a “plastic gun.” Texas police began searching for
that vigilante diner, with that “you-take-my-cash-I-take-your-life”
mindset out of anger.
Anger is about threats and violations to
your wellbeing. So, being able to feel anger and use anger
to safeguard your own personal wellbeing is important. People who can’t get
angry often end up accepting aggressions and violations of their
wellbeing. Many victims of family abuse simply adjust to verbal threat
or even physical violence and accept mistreatment as an unhappy fact of life.
They learn to deny its emotional impact, to rationalize its harm, and even to
avoid upsetting the abuser. Adults, who’ve learned these “survival” skills as
children, often end up marrying into abusive relationships not because they
want to, but because they unconsciously feel the abuse comfortably familiar and
even normal.
Stephen Lau
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